Marian talks about
the changing roles with her husband’s dementia
In some ways as my
husband began to show signs of dementia I turned into the father of the family
and he turned into the child. After he died I had to find out who I was. I
didn't really know who I was. I was no longer the mother or the father or the
wife. I also had to live with my mistakes. I didn't have him or anyone else to shift
the blame to anymore.
Marian talks about her father’s doctors
During the time my father was at the mental hospital with his advanced dementia he had about ten
rounds of pneumonia and they treated him with penicillin. He would make a quick
recovery each time but then he would get it again. I simply asked whether this
was the right approach for him. The doctor really ripped into me and accused me
of wanting to kill my dad. That was devastating. This was long before hospice
was available. I wasn't trying to kill my father but this was a pretty awful
time, even for making inquiries or finding out my choices.
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